One of the biggest changes when you head to college? Sharing a space with someone who isn’t your sibling, your best friend… or even someone you’ve ever met before. Roommates can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and sometimes just plain awkward—but they’re also a huge part of your college experience.
The good news? You don’t have to be besties to have a great roommate situation. With a little communication, mutual respect, and an open mind, you might just gain a late-night snack buddy, spontaneous Target-run partner, or even a lifelong friend.
Here are 10 big-sister-approved tips to help you be a thoughtful, easy-to-live-with roommate—and start your college chapter off strong.
🗣 1. Start with an Honest Conversation
Before you even unpack your string lights, take 20 minutes to talk about the basics. It doesn’t have to be intense—just a “let’s get on the same page” moment.
Topics to cover:
- Sleep schedules
- Study vibes (music? silence?)
- Guests & overnight visitors
- Sharing food or keeping it separate
- Cleaning expectations
This convo might feel a little awkward, but it can seriously set the tone for a smooth year.
🛋 2. Respect Their Space (and Expect the Same)
Even if you hit it off immediately, you’re both going to need alone time. Whether it’s headphones in or lights off = “I need a break,” learning each other’s boundaries is key.
Easy ways to respect space:
- Don’t borrow things without asking (even chargers!)
- Knock before entering if they’ve got the door closed
- Give a heads-up before bringing guests over
🧹 3. Do Your Part Around the Room
No one loves chores—but shared spaces need shared effort. Take ownership of your half and agree on a simple system for common areas (even if it’s just a mini fridge or shared trash).
Pro tip: A quick 10-minute “Sunday Reset” can work wonders. Put on music, tidy up, and get the space back to peaceful.
🕯 4. Create a Cozy, Safe Vibe Together
Your dorm isn’t just a place to sleep—it’s your new home base. Decorate in a way that reflects both of you, and invite little moments of connection.
Try this:
- Light a candle (or use a diffuser) after a long day
- Set up a chill music playlist you both love
- Plan a cozy movie or pizza night in once a month
You’ll be amazed how quickly your room starts to feel like home.
💬 5. Be Kind—and Communicate Early
If something’s bugging you, don’t let it simmer. A quick, kind convo beats bottled-up frustration every time.
Try saying:
- “Hey, can we chat about dishes real quick?”
- “I’ve noticed XYZ—would you be cool if we tweaked that?”
Approach it with curiosity, not confrontation. And be open to feedback, too—this is a two-way street.
🌈 6. Embrace Your Differences
You might have totally different schedules, music taste, or decorating styles—and that’s okay! Use it as a chance to learn from each other.
Some of the best roommate bonds come from opposites who click. Respect their rhythm, and they’ll do the same for you.
🎉 7. Make Room for Fun (Without Forcing It)
You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate. But you can still be great roommates and make a few core memories together.
Fun ideas to try:
- Order takeout and binge a new show
- Walk to the dining hall or gym together
- Do a mini Target or coffee run between study sessions
Little shared moments add up.
🧘♀️ 8. Support Each Other Through the Ups and Downs
Freshman year can be… a rollercoaster. Exams, homesickness, friend drama—it’s a lot. Being there for your roommate (and letting them be there for you) can make all the difference.
Support doesn’t have to be deep talks—sometimes it’s just:
- A “you’ve got this!” Post-it on their mirror
- Offering snacks when they’re stressed
- Leaving the room for 30 minutes so they can have a good cry in peace
💌 9. Keep the Communication Going
Check in every once in a while—not just when there’s an issue. Ask how they’re doing. Compliment their cute outfit. Offer to grab a coffee on the way back from class.
A little kindness goes a long way in building a roommate relationship that feels easy and fun.
💛 10. Leave Room for Growth
Your first few weeks of living together might feel awkward—and that’s totally normal. Give each other grace to adjust. You’re both learning, growing, and figuring out who you are in this new space.
Remember: being a good roommate isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up with kindness, respect, and a willingness to try.
✨Real Talk Before You Unpack
Roommate life can be one of the most unexpectedly rewarding parts of college. You’re sharing space, sure—but also experiences, inside jokes, and maybe even late-night therapy sessions.
Whether you become soul sisters or just stay friendly cohabitants, showing up with a good attitude and open heart can make the year so much better. Be the kind of roommate you’d want to have—and watch how the magic unfolds.
