AKA: Your Go-To Guide to Not Freezing Mid-Sentence or Saying “Umm” 97 Times
Let’s set the scene: you walk into a room full of smiling girls, the music’s playing, your heart is pounding, and suddenly someone’s asking, “So, tell me about yourself!” And your brain goes… blank.
Sound familiar?
If you’re stressed about what to say during sorority recruitment, you’re not alone. The convos can feel fast, overwhelming, and a little like speed dating. But the good news? You don’t need to memorize a script. You just need a few solid conversation starters, a little prep, and the confidence to be your real, lovely self.
Here’s your big-sister-approved guide to what to say during rush—and what to avoid (gently!) so you feel polished, confident, and ready to make real connections.
🗣 First: What Are These Conversations Actually Like?
Every round of recruitment is different, but in general, expect 5–20 minute convos where members ask questions to get to know you—and give you space to get to know them.
Think of it like a get-to-know-you coffee chat with a girl from your campus who’s super excited you’re there.
💬 What to Say: Conversation Starters That Work Every Time
You don’t need to be clever or perfect. But having a few go-to questions in your back pocket will make things smoother (and help you learn more about each chapter too).
Ask About Their Experience:
- “What made you choose your sorority?”
- “How did you know this chapter was the right fit?”
- “What has your favorite experience been so far?”
Ask About Campus Life:
- “How do you balance sorority life with school?”
- “What kinds of events does your chapter do?”
- “Are you involved in anything else on campus?”
Ask About Chapter Culture:
- “What do sisterhood events look like here?”
- “How does your chapter support new members?”
- “What values are most important to your sorority?”
Pro Tip: Pick 2–3 questions you feel comfortable with and keep them in your mental back pocket. You don’t need a full list—just a few genuine conversation-starters.
✨ What They Might Ask You (And How to Answer Like a Queen)
“Tell me about yourself!”
This is the classic opener—and your chance to give a quick intro with a little personality.
Try something like:
“I’m from Atlanta, I’m planning to major in communications, and I love anything related to photography and coffee shops.”
Short, sweet, and opens the door for follow-up questions.
“Why are you going through recruitment?”
Be honest—but keep it positive.
Good answer:
“I’m hoping to find a strong group of women who can support and challenge me. I really want to feel connected on campus, and I’ve heard amazing things about Greek life here.”
You don’t need to say “because my mom was in a sorority” or “I want friends.” Just be real!
“What are you looking for in a sisterhood?”
Think beyond social events. Talk about connection, support, shared values, or leadership opportunities.
Bonus Tip: Use a personal story or example if you have one—it helps you stand out!
🚫 What to Avoid Saying (With Love!)
This isn’t about being “wrong”—but some things are just better kept for a different convo.
❌ Talking too much about partying
It’s okay to be social, but sororities are about so much more than just frat parties. Focus on friendships, leadership, philanthropy, and community.
❌ Trashing other chapters
Big red flag. Even if you’re not vibing with a house, stay respectful and open-minded. Word travels fast.
❌ Asking about popularity, dues, or reputation
Yes, it’s important to understand finances (more on that below), but round 1 is not the time to bring up money, rankings, or rumors.
❌ Reciting a rehearsed script
You’ll sound more polished when you sound natural. Ditch the “perfect answers” and focus on a real convo instead.
💛 Tips to Keep the Vibe Flowing (Even If It Gets Awkward)
- Smile and nod while they’re talking—it shows you’re engaged.
- Use their name if you remember it—it feels more personal.
- If there’s silence, ask a follow-up question—“That’s so cool! How did you get into that?”
- If you feel nervous, it’s okay to say it! Seriously. Everyone gets it.
“I was a little nervous walking in, but everyone’s been so welcoming!”
That’s not weakness—it’s authenticity.
💡 If You Blank Mid-Conversation…
Take a breath, smile, and say:
“I totally lost my train of thought—but I’m so excited to be here. Can I ask you a question?”
Genuinely. Everyone blanks sometimes. You’re not bombing the conversation.
🫶 Last-Minute Mindset Shifts
- You’re not being judged—you’re being welcomed.
- You’re not auditioning—you’re connecting.
- You’re not competing—you’re finding your fit.
The right house will love your vibe, your story, and your energy. You don’t need to be “more polished” or “less awkward”—you just need to be you.
💌 Final Word from Your Rush Week Hype Girl
You’ve got the outfit. You’ve got the questions. You’ve got this. Remember: the conversations that matter aren’t always the smoothest—they’re the ones where you feel heard and seen.
Rush isn’t about being perfect—it’s about finding your people. So show up, smile, ask questions, and know you don’t need to have rehearsed answers to have the right energy.
You’re doing amazing. Keep going.
